Who would have thought that seeing the nurses take down the
chemo bag for one last time, would be such an overwhelming experience. As the nurse disconnected him and flushed his
lines, I had to sit down. I think I took
my first long, deep breath since this all started.
Round six is done. We
have finished. It’s over.... For now.
We farewelled the nurses.
We were embraced in hugs from the volunteers, the social worker and one
of his Oncologists. We held back tears
as we were handed gifts for Dexter and Koko from people who have impacted on
our lives more then they will know. We
walked away from C2West – West wing, level 2, Children’s ward – saying we hope
to never see them again and having the sentiment returned.
We sat in the car and held each other.
For the last seven months, our lives have not been
ours. We haven’t been able to plan
anything and we haven’t been able to do anything.
Every new month saw our calendar get covered with
appointments and tests and chemo dates.
Every month we packed up our stuff and moved into our home away from
home. Every month we saw the faces of
the families, each going through different stages. The extremes of the long haul families who
have no choice but to make the ward their home, with no timeframe for
discharge, no timeframe for recovery, just no timeframe – to the new families
who thought their child was tired, and less than 24 hours later find
themselvesd sitting in the Children’s Oncology ward trying desperately to get
their head around the diagnosis and the uncertain prospect of what the future holds.
At times I had no idea how we would get through this – and in
reality – we were one of the lucky families.
Our time on the ward is done.
Four rounds of chemo, surgery, two rounds of chemo. Done.
Of course we will be having regular checkups, blood tests and CT scans,
but for now, our journey is over. Dexter
is technically cancer free. Things
should be normal.
But how do you return to ‘normal’ after this? How can you look at things the same? How do you not become a cynical, cranky
individual, always wondering ‘why us’? How
do you not just give in to the emotions – the ones where all you want to do is
cry and the ones where all you want to do is hit something, really hit it hard
and not stop?
I don’t know how we will return to ‘normal’ – I honestly don’t
think there is such a state for our family!
But whatever ‘normal’ is, I know we are starting to get back there. We are relaxing more, we are socialising more
– we have more to talk about then cancer terms!
We have a new baby to look forward to, and, without jinxing ourselves,
we will be hospital free when she comes along!
At the start of May this year, our main concerns were
pushing through Dexter’s therapies, trying to give him the opportunity to achieve
everything he is capable of achieving. A
week after his first birthday, our priorities changed and it became about saving
his life once again. Well thankfully,
once again, his stubborn streak has shone through and we can return to pushing
him to be the best he can be.
It’s been a hard, long, exhausting, confusing, emotional and
frustrating seven months. We got through
it all because of the strength of our relationship. But the strength of that wouldn’t have been
possible if it wasn’t for so many other factors. The people who dropped everything to be there
and support us along the way. The people
who were hurting just as much as we have been, but who stood by and held us up
regardless. The sleepless nights that
they have endured; the stress they felt waiting for updates – all done silently
so as to not add extra pressure on us. It’s
those people who enabled us to be there for each other. In their own way, they understood and my hope
is that they know just how important they are to us and that we would not have
gotten through this without them.
Our silver lining? We
have amazing family and friends and one cheeky, stubborn little man who has shown
us all that we can do this!
2 comments:
For such a tiny little man, he has taught us all so much and has made us so much stronger. He is one very tough little boy!
I was a friend of your sister's in High School and have been reading the updates on Facebook. Your little boy and your strength is amazing. Very glad to hear things are looking up :)
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