The Power Of Vulnerability
Terms of Use Privacy Policy Hide
The Power Of Vulnerability
Unsplash

The Power Of Vulnerability

How Being Vulnerable Can Up Your Chances Of Finding Love

Vulnerability often has a negative connotation to it. For guys it can be equated to being too soft or weak. However, gents who write off exploring the power of vulnerability are missing out on a world of growth potential that comes to fruition when you let your guard down and allow for a full flow of feelings and emotions.

This is particularly tough after a breakup. If you’ve been in a long term, intensely emotional relationship, you’ve likely given a large part of you to your significant other. You loved. You shared intimate details that no one else knows about. You put yourself out there for exactly what you are. Then it all comes tumbling down.

The pain and anguish from the breakup can be enough to cause one to retreat. For the turtle head to go back inside of its shell and seek protection. But now, more than ever, is the time to embrace the power of vulnerability to break through the pain and move on to the next phase of your life in a way that fosters positive growth. Here’s why…

1. It’s Critical To Get Over Your Ex

It’s tempting to shut down your feelings after a breakup. You don’t want to feel the pain and sorrow, so you block it out, hit the bars, and try to get with as many women as possible. By not going through your feelings and properly mourning the loss of your relationship, you’re delaying the inevitable. 

Eventually the feelings you suppress will come back up in a negative way, so you have to open your heart, soul, and mind to embrace these sad feelings. Take the time to talk about it with friends and family. Open up to a life coach or psychologist. Expelling your thoughts and feelings is scary, but it will feel amazing when you do it and help you move on much quicker.

2. Connections Get Deeper

You’ll also find that your connections grow much deeper with friends, family, and new women you meet. When others know and feel that you are putting your authentic self out there, it’s amazing the bonds that will form. Conversations dig deeper. Experiences richen. Your ability to understand yourself and not be afraid to put it all on the table is something others will respect, and in some cases envy.

3. Your Confidence Is High

It will dramatically increase your self-confidence as well. Before you can truly know yourself and what makes you tick, you have to dig deep introspectively and ascertain a greater understanding of what you’re all about. Once you know this, your life starts to make a lot more sense. You are in tune with what drives you and decisions become easier to make now that you’re aligned with yourself on priorities.

So, the benefits are there. You’ll grow faster, connect deeper with friends and family, and build your self-awareness and in turn, confidence and self-love. Now what are some ways to take some baby steps into practicing vulnerability and get started? 

Start first by establishing a routine of writing in your journal. This is an exceptionally therapeutic practice that helps get your thoughts down on paper. Grab a pad of paper or open up a word doc and just write. Directly from your brain to the page. Stream of consciousness. It will get you in the right frame of mind to broaden your practice of vulnerability.

From there, it can be as easy as reaching out to some of your closest friends and scheduling a time to have a heart to heart and talk about some of these deep topics. Take them out for dinner and lay out how you’re feeling. Ask them what keeps them up at night? What are they most passionate about? 

RELATED: How Embracing The Power Of 'Positive Loneliness' Can Turn Your Life Around

So, break down your force field and let the world see the real you. When you embrace vulnerability and connect on a deeper level and you’ll soon feel how much more powerful your relationships can be.