I've posted before about my son and his wife. Things are slightly better with my son but we rarely see our daughter in law anymore. I can't decide if it's just our paths genuinely never cross or if she is deliberately avoiding us. Still, my relationship with them is what it is. I have my son and grandson, we are starting to build a good relationship.
I only now struggle with one aspect. I still have never been trusted to babysit. I hear from so many people how grandparents are a valuable source of childcare and (wrongly) assumed we would be babysitting often. However, my grandson is almost 2 and we have never been asked, not even for an hour.
I did, cautiously, mention to my son that if he ever needed us we are here but nothing ever came of it and I'm worried that if I keep on I'll jeopardise the progress we have made.
I know that they have needed babysitters in the past but it's usually my daughter in laws mother or her sisters that they turn to. It does hurt and I struggle not to be jealous.
I know there is little I can do to change this situation. I guess I just want to know if I'm alone as it feels like it sometimes.
Picture of Kate and William at farm shop