Casey Carter

Since childhood, Casey Carter has had a love for reading and writing but it was the heartbreaking demise of her marraige that reignited her creativity. In trying to understand what went wrong and the why of it all, she began journaling her feelings. She revisited her dreams and goals and realized that what initially seemed like a mistake was really a date with destiny. The breakup caused Casey to not only reawaken the dreams and goals she locked away, but it also set her on a journey of self-exploration. If she was now free to be who she always wanted to be and achieve her heart's desires, exactly who is that woman and how would she go about becoming her? Of Casey's many realizations and "a-ha" moments, one became very loud and clear. She was a highly sexual being and while many differences -- education, socio-economics, life goals -- made her incompatible with some men, this specific issue was one she not only wouldn't admit was a problem but she surpressed. Casey learned women are brought up to believe sex is dirty or it's just for making babies (procreation). Some think it's the only way to get, please and/or keep a man, and as a result of that, some women don't allow themselves to enjoy sex because they do it for their partner. She's heard women say they'll do whatever he wants thinking this will keep him from cheating. When asked how does that make them feel, most will hesitate and then say it doesn't make them feel good about themself, their partner or their relationship. So much of what women learn from society tells them it is not "lady-like" to be overtly sexual or aggressive. We are taught to treat our virginity and vagina like a prized possession that no one is worthy of having unless they promise forever. Casey believes there is nothing wrong with that. As a matter of fact, it is a beautiful thing except it discourages us from getting comfortable with our sexuality and the benefits of being sexually satisfied. Another challenge women face is in understanding their own body. Ask a hundred women to describe the basic anatomy of their vagina and sadly, they can't. An episode of Orange is the New Black showed how grown women didn't know we urinate from the urethra which is located between the clitoris and the vagina. They thought we peed and had sex using the same hole. Even worse, many have probably never seen their vagina. And forget about touching it. That is taboo. Casey wants women to look at it, touch it. It's yours. You should get to know it intimately. But even if you can become comfortable with touching yourself, it will avail you nothing if you're not comfortable communicating with your partner. Women are discouraged from talking about sex. Men freely discuss it but a woman broadcasting her likes and dislikes would be shunned and labeled a slut or whore. This has led to the sexual silence of an entire gender. Women need to be freed of this stigma and open themselves to a world of passion they've been denied. Stereotypes kill our sex by telling us "good" girls don't do certain things. We're controlled by the fear of being labeled and what society will think of us. We worry our friends will shun us and call us dirty names behind our back. Or worse, withhold their friendship for fear of being associated with a deviant. We ostracize women who make pornography because they get paid to be filmed having sex with multiple partners but why aren't we just as outraged by the women on network and cable tv who seem to be sexually ignorant or clutch their pearls at the mere mention of something they purport they have never heard of or would ever do. Today we live in a world where information is readily available at our fingertips, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, three hundred sixty five days a year. Casey strongly believes we cannot continue to raise our daughter's to be sexually ignorant. Next to their brain, their orchid is their greatest treasure. They should completely understand what it is and how it works which will better equip them to value it and themselves. In sharing who she is, Casey hopes to encourage other women to feel free to explore their colors and live a life that includes pleasures beyond their wildest dreams. The characters of Casey's Sexual Rainbow(TM) series reflect the many moods and experiences of the author. Her stories reveal that we all desire to connect with someone. We want to feel free to be our true self with someone who accepts us unconditionally. And in doing so, we allow ourselves to release energies that open us to a more confident version of ourself. A bolder self. A more loving self. Join her as she explores the many colors we all reflect and should embrace happily. Why be gray when you can experience ALL the colors of the rainbow!