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10. Good point, I guess my question is for any married men, was your selection for wife based on the fact that she was exceptional, or more because you were at the point when you wanted to marry?
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12. Say you got married at 29, would you have married if you met your wife at 23? What about 33?
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14. Are there any cases of men stringing a long the same girl for 2-5 years before marrying? Or did many of you know your wife was the one and proposed 6 months-1 year after meeting her?
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16. In all the cases I’ve seen, either people weren’t marrying because they were both waiting until they graduate school, or some other circumstance. But I’ve not known one guy who’s decided a girl was “the one” after 5 years of dating. When should a girl get nervous about this? After 6 months, 2 years? etc.,
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18. Any answers would be greatly appreciated.
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20. 102Hope February 17, 2013 at 11:25 pm
21. J, I personally know at least five happily married couples who got married in early 20s, had a divorce, and then went on to get married again and had kids. I suppose the moral of the story is don’t get married too early if you are in a not-so-great relationship, and also that divorce isn’t the end of the world.
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23. SayWhaat, I got married very quickly. We met at 25, engaged eight months later, married six months after that at 26. So there was definitely some “leap of faith” involved. I remember flying out here to spend a week with my now husband, and having the conversation with him about quitting my stable good job and moving across the country. He convinced me then that he wanted to be with me forever if I let him. So I put in my two-weeks notice and started packing. I felt like the stars aligned to bring us together, and I owed it to fate to give it my best shot.
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25. Ion, my husband said he had a feeling I was “the one” since the first month. However, I think there was also an element of “readiness” involved. He felt ready for a truly long-term relationship and marriage. Also we both had “been in love” before, taken the “red pill” and know when a relationship is good or bad. We were very clear-eyed about many things, while also being madly in love. We talked about how to pay the bills, leasing the apartment, buying furniture, and also meeting the future in-laws. A big part of this is his personality — he is very impatient, and when he wants something, he wants it NOW. Maybe other guys take longer to decide.
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27. 103OffTheCuff February 17, 2013 at 11:33 pm
28. Ion, I met her when she was 18 and a freshman, I was 20. We dated for 4.5 years before I proposed, and we were married 6 months later, almost 5 years on the dime. But, I knew she wanted to. She indicted interest perhaps a year or two after we met.
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30. I don’t see this as “stringing along” but rather making a careful, deliberate choice with my first and only girlfriend. Nobody, I mean NOBODY, was going to rush me on this when I was being a Good Boy and playing by the rules. An older guy, who’s been around the block a bit, probably deserves less time.
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